I wish I was wise enough to write the below words, but alas ’twas not I. A good friend of mine shared the following with me yesterday. I am paying it forward. My bloggy senses have been tingling. 2016 was personally a tough year pour moi. I am thrilled by the thoughts 2017 generates for “without the low, there ain’t a high“.
1. You’re allowed to walk away from relationships that leave you drained.
Even if you can’t explain why.
2. You are worth so much more than your productivity.
Your life doesn’t have to represent a constant incline on some universal graph of ‘success’. Improving is fun, pushing yourself is fun, but don’t get so hung up on constant productivity and success that it starts to dictate your sense of self worth.
3. Being disliked or ‘not for everyone’ is actually a great thing.
It means at one time or another you weren’t afraid to be loud, to stand up for something your believed in, to hold your ground, to take up space, to take a decision. Get comfortable in the position of not being liked by everyone. It probably meant you did something awesome.
“The reward for being liked by everyone is everyone likes you but yourself.”
4. On mindfulness, your spiritual journey, and the pressure to do it ‘right’: you’re not going to be ‘in the moment’ every second of your life.
Please don’t get neurotic about being an A+ mindfulness student, cause that’s just replacing one neuroses with another. It’s called mindfulness practice, not mindfulness perfect. Do what you can in small little pieces, even if its just taking thirty seconds to feel the texture of the food on your tongue or making a concerted effort to breathe a bit deeper and longer. Start there. That’s a good start. You’re doing great.
5. Let go of age anxiety.
This idea of where you think you should have been in your life compared to where you actually are now. Age is so damn irrelevant. Some people are old at 29 and some are young at 92. There is no correct way or timeline in which to do life, except the life that feels true for you. Flow with what is, and do the best with what you have and you’ll see how quickly you fall in love with your life and start manifesting all the good shit that was meant for you.
6. Your life doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else.
7. Sometimes, when someone gives you advice, it’s good to say thank you and then do whatever the fuck you were going to do anyway.
You don’t have to take advice that people give you. Be grateful they have given you some of their time and shared some of their life experience with you but the truth is you can’t abstain from life and you can’t abstain from risk. The only person who knows what’s best for you is you.
8. Some days you feel like you are ten feet tall and could break through walls. Some days you find yourself standing in the shower reevaluating all your life choices.
Love and accept yourself in both times. We so often acknowledge moods when they come, but not when they leave. Breathe through it, watch it wash over you, then watch it leave. It will always leave.
9. One of the most powerful things you can do in this life is talk to yourself with love.
We can be so unconscious of how we speak to ourselves. But ask yourself, if I spoke to an employee the way I speak to myself, would they still be on my team? How about a lover? We demand respect, consideration and integrity in all our relationships, and we should expect the same standard for ourselves.
10. Give yourself what you need.
If you’re an introvert, respect that fact about yourself and allow yourself that time to recharge in solitude to remain on an even keel. If you’re someone who needs to be constantly challenged to feel alive, then don’t keep yourself stuck out of the fear of the unknown. Put your hand up for new opportunities and push yourself into situations you might not quite be ready for.
If you need to cry sometimes for no particular reason, get into a childpose on the floor and let the tears flow. Feels weird? Whatever. We’re all a little weird. Some people just hide it better than others.
11. Sometimes the only thing that heals is time.
And usually saltwater and maybe a plane ticket. But mostly time.
“Just keep throwing six months at it until it goes away.” – Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat Pray Love.
12. Don’t punish yourself for those cringey crazy things you did for that person who didn’t deserve you.
We all go a little nuts over love sometimes. It just proves we are raw, emotional beings with the capacity to feel things deeply. And that’s alright, that’s just part of being human. We just need learn to gracefully let go of the things that aren’t meant for us.
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